Do not form a theory about anyone By Fr. Peter Iwuala

The practice of not making judgments about others is essential for maintaining good relations and avoiding negative effects of theories on interpersonal communication. Judgments can be harmful or beneficial, and stereotypes in society are a result of theories about others’ actions. Refraining from making judgments allows for continuous adjustment of theories, avoidance of errors, and greater responsiveness to truth. People form theories with closed-mindedness, which can hinder personal growth and create self-fulfilling prophecies. Accepting others for who they are is crucial for coexistence in society, but it can be challenging when negative judgments form. To avoid negative judgments, it is important to separate description of events from explanations involving motives and intentions. Openness and avoiding snap theories are also crucial. Preventing biased judgments is the most effective strategy, as it allows individuals to understand their actions and build better theories for the future. Integrating and reducing judgments is vital for interpersonal relationships, a good work environment, and personal development.

From talking about avoiding judgments and the implications of the same, I conclude that in a nutshell, judgments are like a punishment we give someone before giving them a fair trial; that is always backed up by some or the other opinions or views. It is always better to have patience and understand someone before forming an opinion about them. Opinions and views may differ, but judgments on anyone are generally hurtful and harmful. They create a feeling of not being understood and alienation in the opposite person. Hence, avoiding judgments always helps in the smooth functioning of relationships of any kind and avoids unnecessary misunderstandings and bitterness. We can always start by giving the benefit of doubt before coming to some concrete conclusion about anyone. Because it is said, “First impression is not the last impression.” So why always be in a hurry to form an impression?